Pornography is an addiction that is easily fueled in our sex-saturated culture. Lives
unraveled by a lure so strong it has the power to destroy families and ruin lives. Jerry’s
and Mickey’s addictions had cost each of them dearly. But there is a power that is so
much greater and offers hope to those struggling with this destructive habit. Learn how
God’s grace, and the accountability of others, helped both men to find the freedom they
desperately sought.
larry on April 10, 2016 at 1:39 pm
It destroyed my life but thru Reformers and the word of GOD helped me. You never control an addiction once it’s got you.
Mickey on May 19, 2016 at 11:45 am
You never control an addiction once it’s got you.” But you can manage the addiction.
Anna on April 10, 2016 at 6:46 pm
I am the wife of someone who is into pornography. I have been praying that he’ll get help.
Terry G on April 23, 2016 at 9:42 am
He already has the best help a helpmate and the Holy Ghost. Stand strong and look ahead.
Mickey on May 19, 2016 at 11:48 am
Anna, Keep praying that your husband will find help. A strong wife is certainly important. But being strong means having TOUGH LOVE and saying NO MORE porn in my house. Tough love means not using God’s Word as a hammer, but it also means you are not to be a ‘doormat’ either. Get help for yourself through a clinical Biblical counselor and keep praying.
Jerry on May 23, 2016 at 11:39 am
Anna – if your husband is SERIOUS about kicking his addiction, he needs to get in a group that will provide the tools he needs.
Pelisiane on May 1, 2016 at 7:44 am
I am addicted to pornography. It destroying my relationship, i don’t know what to do, i can’t pray I go to church like i have to. I feel ashamed I don’t want anyone to know that. My husband got mad with me all the time, because I am not interested on him but i love him. Please help me without expose me to the public. Thanks!
JC on May 6, 2016 at 9:26 am
Pelisiane
I’m a recovering addict. The first step you have to make is to acknowledge you need help and you have done that. Second, you need to truly from the bottom of your heart have to want help and it sounds like you do. I know what it is like to be in your shoes. I don’t know where you live but I encourage you to find a local church with a Recovery group. Just go and listen to the others that are there. You will not be pressured to speak so don’t fear. They are also keep what is said in the building between you and them and it will never leave that place. Once you keep attending and if you’re heart is in the right place and you truly want forgiveness and healing from this addiction, God will work in mysterious ways. I’m going to pray for you Pelisiane. I hope you do reach out to a recovery group and seek help. You can’t fight it on your own.
Mickey on May 19, 2016 at 1:13 pm
Pelisiane,
JC gave great advice. Don’t go this alone. Shame is the #1 reason people keep returning to their sin and shame is the #1 reason addicts don’t get help. If you go to AA meetings, I’m sure you will find those who will emphasize with your pain. More and more women are getting entangled with sordid varieties of porn / sex addiction. You are not alone. One resource I would suggest for all women who are addicted to porn / sex addiction is a ministry out of Nashville, TN called Bethesda Workshops. You can Google their name on the web and find out what resources are near you.
Jerry on May 23, 2016 at 12:39 pm
Pelisiane…. you need to get in a support group with people with the same issue.
Jordan on May 11, 2016 at 11:37 am
I am addicted to pornography. It started when i was going through YouTube when I was younger and a video came up that I watched and ever since I have been on and off with pornography. It is tearing apart my family and my relationship with my mom. But most of all it is tearing apart my relationship with God. I don’t know what to do. I pray about it all the time and I am too embarrassed to tell anyone at my church because i feel unworthy.
Mickey on May 19, 2016 at 1:15 pm
Jordan,
You are not alone. Please Google these suggestions: Josh McDowell, Set-Free Summit, Covenant Eyes, http://www.904true.org
Jerry on May 23, 2016 at 12:41 pm
Jordan – you need to get with a support group of guys with the same issue.
Mickey on May 19, 2016 at 11:33 am
I am Mickey. RBC ministries interviewed me in 1999 and rebroadcast it this year (2016). It is a real blessing to see what God has done over the last 21 years of my recovery and the lives of over 1,400 men who have contacted our ministry, Faithful and True of Jacksonville, FL.
The insidious growth of pornography / sexual addiction within the church is growing at an alarming rate. When I was first interviewed, there were less than a dozen resources throughout the country. If there was a meeting of recovery specialists back in 1999 (laymen or counselors), there would be less than 100 people in a room. On April 4-7, 2016, Josh McDowell and Covenant Eyes hosted a Set-Free Global Summit with over 800 hundred pastors, clinicians and lay leaders in the world! There is help out there.
If you are struggling with an addiction to porn or committing sexual sin that is out of control, God has provided us with unlimited expertise with clinical and Biblical training. I suggest you Google Josh McDowell, Covenant Eyes or contact the ministry God has entrusted me to facilitate, http://www.904true.org.
Jerry on May 23, 2016 at 12:46 pm
And I am Jerry. RBC ministries interviewed me in 2008 and rebroadcast it this year. I have been sober for 22+ years and lead a group of guys with sexual addiction… in a program called Celebrate Recovery. The MAJORITY of men in the average church have the same addiction… ruining their marriages whether or not their wife knows about it.